The gentleman style isn’t just about cap-toe oxfords, finely tailored wool suits, and a carefully selected timepiece. It’s about being a true gentleman in everything you do. This goes far beyond your clothes or appearance.
Some would say that being a gentleman is a dying art, but I’m happy to report that this is not the case. In fact, I see a renaissance of the gentleman style, both in young and older men. It’s my opinion that the return of the gentleman style is a breath of fresh air in the turbulent world we live in today.
Are you ready to be a gentleman inside and out? Here are the essential rules you need to know.
What is a gentleman?
Before you get started on your gentlemen transformation, let’s define what the term actually means.
The term ‘gentleman’ was originally used for men born into nobility. This birthright was given to those with parents of wealth and good social standing, rather than to men with noble actions.
Over time, the term broadened to include men of character, and now, the term doesn’t really link to wealth or social status at all. Nowadays, a gentleman doesn’t have to have power or wealth. Instead, a modern gentleman holds himself to high standards, both in how he looks and how he acts.
8 qualities of a modern gentleman
Here are the habits and attributes that I believe a modern gentleman must possess.
A gentleman is willing to make himself little
While there’s nothing wrong with being recognized for your accomplishments, nobody likes a bragger. The modern gentleman is quietly confident. Ironically, this speaks volumes about your presence, winning you true respect from others.
A gentleman doesn’t feel the need to always have the microphone
There is much to be said about the art of conversation and every man should work to master it. A gentleman doesn’t feel the need to constantly hear the sound of his own voice. He listens with intent, shows understanding, and speaks with conviction without talking over others.
A gentleman seeks to be a valuable member of society
Regardless of a man’s status in life, a gentleman recognizes there’s always something he can do to make the world a better place. Selfless acts like sparing change for someone in need or being a courteous driver are small contributions that can have a big impact.
A gentleman is a student for life
The modern gentlemen don’t stop learning after college. Whether it’s keeping a good book by his side or just learning from others in conversation, he is a voracious student of life.
A gentleman is patient for big rewards
Patience is a virtue. Rather than surrounding himself with cheap trinkets, a gentleman with style is willing to wait patiently, work hard, and save up for the finer things in life. He knows how to discipline his desires and work on building personal wealth over time.
A gentleman greets the morning sun
A gentleman doesn’t sleep in. When the morning sun begins to peek over the horizon, he is there to greet it. He manages his day well, works hard, plays hard, and then makes time for proper rest.
A gentleman always carries a pocket notebook
The mind is an amazing thing, and a gentleman knows this. To help structure the thoughts whirling around the mind, he always has a notebook and pen at the ready. He uses his notebook to write down daily tasks, inspiring notes, and important reflections.
A gentleman cares about himself
Self care is a must for the gentleman of style. He takes good care of his health, eats well, and exercises regularly. He has a consistent skincare and grooming routine. He keeps his shoes and clothes clean and well maintained.
8 ways to look like a gentleman
Now that you know the qualities of a gentleman, here are some ways you can look the part!
Up your grooming game
You can’t be a gentleman without having a great grooming game. Swap out the cheap smelling body sprays for nice colognes, maintain impeccable hygiene (including your teeth), and make time for a decent skincare regime.
Master the smart casual style
The gentleman style doesn’t always include fancy suits. While being well-dressed is essential to being a gentleman, you should know how to dial it down for a smart casual look. This means adding an essence of modern-day wear but avoiding sloppy-looking details like ripped jeans and baggy t-shirts.
Shoes can make or break your look, and they tend to be one of the first things people notice. Invest in some high-quality, stylish shoes and treat them well. Keep them clean, polished, and stored correctly.
Wear a quality wristwatch
Men have limited accessory options, so it’s essential to choose quality ones to wear. A good wristwatch will make you look more put together and add to your gentlemanly style.
Get a gentleman’s hairstyle
Hair is another essential feature of a gentleman’s style. It’s usually a classic cut – typically shorter with a side part or combover. Your hair should be well-kept at all times, which means regular trips to the barbers every 4-6 weeks. If people notice that you got a haircut, it means you’re not cutting your hair frequently enough!
Maintain facial hair
While a gentleman doesn’t necessarily have to have a clean-shaven face, any facial hair must be maintained well. If you shave, shave daily. If you prefer to have facial hair, keep it looking neat and tidy.
Keep your car clean and well maintained
They say your car is a reflection of you, but this doesn’t mean you need a flashy or expensive car to be a gentleman. It’s all about the way you look after it. A gentleman would never mistreat his car. Spend some time each week to clean your car, both inside and out.
Skincare and grooming essentials for the modern gentleman
Here at JESSE JIMZ, we’re all about championing the gentleman style as a way of life. Too many men get so focused on all the qualities of a modern gentleman that they forget one of the most important steps.
To be a gentleman, you must be well-groomed and polished, which means your skin needs to be in tip-top shape, too. After all, what gentleman wants to be seen with shiny skin, puffy under eyes, or blemished skin?
That’s why we were inspired to create the JESSE JIMZ Skincare for Men collection, making skincare easy, accessible, and effective for the modern gentleman!